Social - Dictionary definition

1. pertaining to, devoted to, or characterized by friendly companionship or relations
2. seeking or enjoying the companionship of others; friendly; sociable; gregarious.
I love blogging, I love the community involved and I love meeting people with similar interests. I even started my own blogging get togethers up here in the North for like minded bloggers to spend time together having a great time with their families.

I was in an article last year for The Sun newspaper talking about how the wonderful community on twitter helped and supported me during the dreadful time when we first found out that Elizabeth had cancer. They were there day and night, sending messages of love and support or just giving me someone to talk too. The support meant so much to me and really helped late at night when the lights were off and Elizabeth was asleep and all I could hear was the beeping of machines or the whispers of the night shift nurses.

However I have found once again that Social media does not always stand up to its definition. I have left closed groups on Facebook before, previously just quietly slipping away when I felt I could no longer watch the car crash happen in front of me. Today I left a closed group because that car crash involved me. An innocent appeal to share some love between bloggers was seen as a way of enhancing scores or stats or goodness knows what else. I have never been bothered by my stats. I have fabulous relationships with so many pr firms and brands that I can't actually remember the last time someone even asked me for my stats.

A while back I used to run a weekly post that was called Share the Blog Love Sunday. I would choose great posts from the week and then write about them in a blog post with follow links. I am surprised that when I tweeted asking for posts I was not told then that I was affecting scores by adding follow links to peoples blogs. But saying that back then twitter was a friendly place. It really was a social place to be. You could even jump into other peoples conversations without seeming rude, not that you could do that in real life.

I used to love Social media. Now I don't feel like being very social any more.

 


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26/02/2013 16:42

This post rings so true unfortunately - I've not been blogging that long but you can see the clear divide between those who crave stats and commercial affirmation of their popularity and those who simply blog for the love of it. Case in point is how tots100 have stopped showing the ranking on their badges - too right I say as even I was beginning to get a bit miffed when my 'rank' went down and had to have a word with myself! It's really sad that you've had to leave FB groups and stop your linkys because bloggers care more about numbers than sharing the blog love as you say x I hope you see there's still loads of us out there who just blog for the hell of it (shouts me, me, me) ;) I think this is a great post though that highlights a growing issue out there xxx

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Sarah
26/02/2013 16:49

In times of crisis the blogging community is amazing. Case in point your little girl and poor Matilda Mae. The rest of the time its not always a friendly place to be. Shame really.

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26/02/2013 17:14

Skips in kisses both cheeks and skips out! x x

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26/02/2013 17:45

I think its a shame that social media has turned its back on being social. Gone are the days where you can ask a question within out a sarcastic remark being added. I too have left Facebook groups due to this... I wish people would follow the 'if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything' philosophy.

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26/02/2013 18:01

There are so many more fabulous sides to blogging and social media, your story being a case in point. Sometimes, sadly, there is always one or two spoilers of the fun who feel the need to poison something which was so good. A very sad fact of life. Chip your chin up and don't be too affected, the spoilers just aren't worth it x x

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26/02/2013 18:51

You know the best thing ever was when I got kicked out of a closed group.

Now I no longer feel the need to stand up and be heard for the side of good when things are said as I have no idea they are going on.

I get all the best bits of it. I think it should be open, social and be accepting of all opinions.

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26/02/2013 21:46

You're fine lovely, you stay as you were... xx

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26/02/2013 22:30

I've missed something, dunno what. But just in case you need it, here's a hug.

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26/02/2013 23:07

Don't give up on it just for a few silly knobheads. And it is just a few so sod them. Twitter is generally a great place, some people think they're the social media experts and police. Ignore them, they just look like plebs!

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27/02/2013 22:17

some valid points here. you stay as you are Laura xx (hugs)

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